Finding a doula is a little bit like finding a temporary best friend (who – watch out – may become one of your forever best friends). A doula needs to turn on all your happy buttons and make your partner feel completely at ease. You have to be completely comfortable discussing bodily functions with her and also realize that you may be performing bodily functions in front of her. She should support your pregnancy and birth YOUR way, but still provide alternative options for you to consider. How do you find this elusive person? How can you know you’re making the right decision? This birth will never happen again – how can you be sure a doula should be your doula?
One of the doulas in our area (hi, Katharine!) recently hosted the monthly Doula Speed Dating event for expecting couples and doulas. And she compiled one of the BEST “Find Your Doula” lists I’ve ever seen for a woman or a couple looking for a doula. Of course, you may have other questions, but this is a great place to start. Happy interviewing!
- My due date is _________: are you available?
- These things (X,Y,Z) are important to us for our birth. How can you support us in these things?
- Why are you a doula? When did you decide to become a doula?
- What do you think of medication during birth?
- How many births have you attended? Can you provide references?
- Do you offer any special services? (i.e., massage, photography, rebozo technique, aromatherapy, placenta encapsulation, Childbirth Education, birth story writing, etc.)
- Tell us about your package. What type of pre-labor and post-labor support do you provide? When will you arrive in labor?
- Do you have a backup? How does your backup relationship work?
- What happens in the event of something unexpected? What if my labor is really long, you have a personal emergency, or I start to give birth in the car on the way to the hospital?
- Do you have experience at my planned place of birth? With my care provider?
- What other commitments or conditions do you have around the time of my due date?
- What do you do when you’re not doula-ing?
- What makes you different from other doulas? What’s your favorite thing about being a doula?
- How do you tailor your support to each birthing person and family?